How do I just say no...without being a b***h?

Say you work at a high-profile job that has perks such as free clothes, shoes, accessories, concert tickets, floor seats to sporting events, vip access at celebrity events, the list goes on. How do you tell people who know you or have just met you and find out what you do that you that you have no desire to hook them up with your "hook up". Not that you are trying to be snotty but some people just try to cozy up just to get at the hookups without earning the privledge. How would you say no?

How do I just say no...without being a b***h?
Just say no. It's not their feelings you're hurting, it's their ego - they want to think they're charming enough that a near stranger will hook them up with perks. When you meet new people, don't talk about all the extras, and downplay it if someone else does talk about it. And just say no, in a nice voice, and change the subject. You're not being rude saying no, they're being rude asking.
Reply:First, stop telling them what you do for a living and all the perks you get. "Id love to hook you up, but I've got a promise list a mile long." Then change the subject.





Reading material to consider:


How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty: And Say Yes to More Time, More Joy, and What Matters Most to You by Patti Breitman,





The Last Word on the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense – Susan Elgin
Reply:If they ask, just tell them that you are not at liberty to hand out amenities from your job to other people anymore at the risk of losing access to them. Sorry. If they are interested in such things, tell them to go put in a application to work. Anyone who would consider me a B-word because I didn't give them something isn't worth my time.



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