Did you have nightmares before your wedding?

I am getting married in 6 months' time. We've got all the major stuff sorted (venue, church, dress, etc.), and now there's just the details left to do (which can be quite laborious nevertheless - shoes, accessories, music to play, meeting with the videographer, the priest who's going to marry us, etc....)





Anyway, I'm quite calm during the day about the whole stuff, but at night, I go crazy! I'm having nightmares every day, about my bf or me being unfaithful, us breaking up, the priest forgetting to come on the day, and so on. This is wearing me thin! Is this normal?? And what can I do to reduce it?

Did you have nightmares before your wedding?
I have definitely had some nightmares! They are completely ridiculous but always involve everything going wrong in the wedding and my fiance and I are the only ones who are ever trying to fix it lol. Or I have dreams where he comes and sees me before the wedding and I get really mad at him and the wedding gets stalled.





The only thing that has really helped me is just sharing the dreams with people close to me, and they tell me about the pre-wedding nightmares that they had and we have a good laugh. My fiance has had a nightmare or two himself about the wedding, and it helps when we talk about the dreams together.





I also try to downplay it in my mind and not be so hard on myself about planning. It's really hard for me to not obsess about all the details, so I really have to make myself relax and recognize it as a single day in the rest of our lives ;)





Hope this helped!
Reply:Totally normal! It's just in your subconscious and has nothing to do with premonitions. I've always found that I dream about certain things repeatedly when I haven't actually dealt with or talked about it in real life. You know how it never works to tell yourself NOT to think about something, because the very fact that you're trying not to think about it, pushes it forward and makes you think about it.





Example (I don't want to be a downer but it applies) my fiance's Mother just passed away a couple of months ago and she wanted to be at home, no hospitals, when it happened. My fiance, his twin, and myself were there to assist her until she passed. It was such a painful experience that I haven't been able to properly deal with it or talk about it much and now I'm starting to have really bad dreams about her death and my own, to the point where I don't want to go to sleep. I think maybe your stresses about things going perfect should just be talked about. Just verbalize it with your fiance or wedding party, parents, etc. Talking about it (and any concerns or fears you have) will let your mind rest at night since it's no longer an undiscussed issue.





I just had a panic attack yesterday when I received our engraved sand ceremony vases with the date on it. I couldn't breathe and didn't know why so instead of keeping it to myself, I told my fiance and after talking, we figured out what my problem was and were laughing about it a few minutes later.
Reply:I think it's simply stress related, I wouldn't necessarily take it as a bad omen! I keep having dreams that I forget to get my dress altered or that the photographer forgets to show up or that the ring bearer throws a tantrum and throws the rings and we lose them! I don't know about you, but we're going through a lot with the planning and we're both picking up overtime at work to pay for everything and the details that are left.. oh lord, the details! I would say it's stress induced... i wouldn't worry about it :)





I would try to reduce the stress, working out sometimes help (a nice long run to clear your head) or maybe you and your fiancee could have a nice date night out -- where you don't talk about the wedding, at all.. just a relaxing night!
Reply:I've had some crazy mightmares myself (BTB June 21st) The best thing I know to do is when you wake up- reason through or talk through what you dreamed about with those who care- this helps relieve your silent fears and you should sleep more peacefully. Don't forget to have a laugh about them sometimes too.
Reply:dont let them make you do something stupid i had the his dad setting my veil on fire and some mystery woman wearing my dress and ring ones go to a therapist talk to her about it and start meditating to center yourself
Reply:I have had bad wedding dreams too. Though they're not really bad, just strange. Like in this one dream my mother, sister and I were all sitting around on the wedding day waiting to get our hair done and the hair lady was just sitting there doing nothing! When I asked her to do my hair because we were running out of time, she got really annoyed that I asked and did it not how I wanted and messy too. I thought that was weird.


In another dream, I reminded my fiance (who is often very busy with his job and doesn't have time for some things) about the wedding and I told him 'make sure you're there by 4pm' and he said 'if I finish all my work I'll be able to make it' or something like that and my dream self was so upset understandably!


Yeah from what I have heard it is normal to have bad dreams about your wedding prior to the big day. Don't worry about it and shrug them off as you would any other bad dream. Just try to relax, I'm sure your wedding will be beautiful and go off without a hitch!



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